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Hilary White's avatar

You guys... Thanks for all this. It really does help.

Caroline, I've started cutting coffee in half. In fact, I only ever had one a day, but it was a doozy, a three-cup mokka pot (it's an Italian thing, and "3-cup" doesn't mean here what it means over there. Italians think two teaspoons of espresso is a "cup of coffee") with a tablespoon of honey and a bunch of heavy cream. I never drank coffee at all, ever, before I came to Italy. In North America coffee is the most repulsive stuff, a fantastic fragrance but it tastes like something you scrape out of an ashtray. I never understood why anyone could stand it. Coffee is an entirely different matter in this country and I've learned to like the Italian version. But being English of the old school, when I was growing up and until I came here tea was on at least three times a day and any other time you felt like it. A friend sent me a huge box of green jasmine tea for Christmas and another sent a huge bag of Darjeeling, so I'm going back to old habits. I've got quite a lot of tea-compatible herbs in the terrace pots, so I'm inventing iced tea blends.

People don't talk about their ailments, especially online. We tend to focus more on issues, I guess. I think it's an Anglo-sassone thing that we think it's more important to be stoic than to actually feel better. Italians are up front and blunt about their medical stuff to a degree I still find discombobulating. If you've had cancer they won't hesitate an instant to ask you "where?" something an Englishman would rather face waterboarding than do himself. I have learned to answer, "in Rome", which usually gets a laugh, and then I change the subject. But though Italy is a nation of hypochondriacs, this is definitely the best place in the world to be seriously ill - the instant they find out you've really got something serious going on they fall all over themselves to help and be nice to you. I'm not at all confident I would still be here if I'd had the treatment in Canada or Britain. Not only do they have vastly inferior services - I looked it up on the WHO website - they treat patients like crap. The medical culture in AngloLand is Mordorian.

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Bernie's avatar

I know EXACTLY what you describe in that post, btw. And I think the brutal heat of Italian summers is particularly conducive to spiralling down this way.

My first summer in Italy, with a good deal less excuse than you, I got into that cycle of not eating. Too hot at first, and then feeling too tired to get anything to eat, and then not feeling hungry.... I was living on a cup of coffee in the morning, a plate of pasta with a little red sause and a sprinkle of cheese on it sometime in the midafternoon (only because I was babysitting for a few weeks, and that's what the family was having), and then in the evening a yogurt cup, or a gelato.

I always felt tired and weak, unable to concentrate, utterly languid. I only came alive a little bit if at the beach, feeling the breeze and cooled a little by the water. But walking down (5 min) to the beach was too daunting, as it sapped all my strength--and then there would be the trouble of getting back! This got creepingly worse for weeks, and reached the point where walking DOWNstairs--and finally, even getting up in the morning--exhausted me.

Starting having heart palpitations that frightened the living daylights out of me. One day I thought I was on the verge of a having a stroke--ridiculous at my age, never having done drugs or birth control or anything like that. But I still had no idea what was wrong.

I sheepishly thought about walking over (about a mile) to the hospital to ask them if maybe they could take a look at me in the Emergency Room

But my pride got the better of me, and I ate icecream instead (thinking just in case I had low blood sugar, like my hypoglycemic cousin has, that would help).

It made me briefly feel better, and gave me the idea it was all related to food. With trial and error, over some days, I realized my body wanted food in general but especially protein. Boy, did I feel foolish. And also wonderful, as I started to eat again and regained my strength, and was able to walk UPstairs again, with a light and springy step.

Occasionally, when I remember that summer, I could almost burst out laughing, thinking how unbelievably embarrassing it would have been, if I HAD gone to an Italian emergency room--to be diagnosed as an idiot who simply hadn't eaten well in months! I am sure it would have been a dramatic scene. I can just see how the Italians would have reacted. For darn sure I would have been shouted at, wept over, and fed, in short order!!!

Anyway. The Italians are not wrong to be so attentive about food.

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